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The Italian wedding is also a lengthy celebration like any Indian wedding. The celebration may begin with a mass in the morning, and the dancing and feasting after the wedding ceremony may continue well into the early morning hours of the next day. An Italian wedding could last the entire day, night and next morning.
The Betrothed
Italian marriages are very close to Indian marriages in a way that long ago, Italian marriages were arranged by the families of the bride and groom. Often, the brother or another male relative of the groom went to the father or uncle of the young woman to ask for her hand in marriage. In some cases, a matchmaker sent a message to the prospective bride`s family of the man`s intent to marry the bride. Once the two families were in accord, the couple`s official engagement was announced.
If the groom proposes directly to the bride, he usually serenades her first, and either plays an instrument or shows up with his musically-talented friends.
 Diamond engagement rings were given by medieval Italians in the belief that the diamond was created by the flames of love. Precious stones were used by medieval Italians as part of the groom`s payment for his bride. The payment, like engagement rings today, symbolized the groom`s intent to marry.
In preparation for the wedding, the bride assembles a bundle consisting of household items, linens, her clothing, and sometimes even her future husband`s clothes, to bring to the home of the groom. Her family provides her with a dowry consisting of monetary and domestic goods.
Wearing of green by the bride the night before the wedding brings luck and abundance to the couple.
The Wedding
 On the day of the wedding, the bride is not supposed to wear any gold, until after her wedding ring is worn. Wearing gold during or before the wedding is thought to bring bad luck.
Old church traditions forbade marriage in the months of May and August. May was to be reserved for the veneration of the Virgin Mary, and August was thought to invite bad luck and sickness. Sunday marriages are believed to be luckiest.
In the Veneto region of Italy, the groom walks to the bride`s house and together, he walks with the bride and the whole wedding party to church. On the way, town residents would watch the group walk by and present the bride with many challenges. For example, they put a broom on the ground and if she bride noticed it and picked it up to put it away she was considered a good housekeeper. Then, she might come across a crying child, the couple is supposed to quiet him and make him smile, this would mean that they will be good parents. Coming across a beggar, means giving generously and is equaled to having a good heart.
This reflects a similarity to a "baraat" in India wedding, of course with a difference that here the bride accompanies the groom and they walk together to the wedding venue, where as in Indian "baaraat" the groom comes with his wedding party to the wedding venue.
 The bride arrives to the wedding mass last. In the meantime, the groom waits in front of the church as his best men tease him about the bride, "Did you tell her that you`re getting married today?" and "I don`t think she`ll come"! Her lateness, depending on the number of minutes, would have a different meaning to the groom. The groom brings the bouquet of flowers to the wedding. In fact the color and style of the bouquet is supposed to be a surprise to the bride. This signifies a present from the grooms family to the bride. While the groom waits for the bride outside the church, the groom should stand there... holding the bouquet.
Folklore calles for the groom to carry a piece of iron in his pocket (Toc Ferro) on his wedding day to ward off the evil eye (mal`occhio) since his happy situation might provoke envy, and invite supernatural danger. The bride wore a bridal veil to conceal her from malignant spirits, yet tearing the veil was considered good luck.
In Southern regions of Italy, the couple breaks vase or glass into many pieces at the end of the wedding day. The number of pieces represented the number of years they`d be happily married to one another.
The candy-covered almonds, confetti tied in mesh bags to toss at the couple is based on a tradition to avoid childlessness. In the past, instead of wedding cake, ornamental bags or boxes were filled with the sugared almonds and sent to friends and guests to signify the matrimony or the "union of bitter and sweet." The number of confetti was, and continues to be, very important; it should be an odd number preferably 5 or 7-- each a good-luck number.
The Reception
 The best man greets everyone coming to the reception with a tray of liquor. Sweet liquors are served to the women and strong drinks served to the men before any food. The purpose of this is to give everyone an opportunity to toast the bride and groom. A common toast would be "Per cent`anni" (for a hundred years).
All the men at the reception kiss the bride for good luck -- and to make the groom jealous.
The bride carried a satin bag in which guests placed envelopes containing money. The money helped toward the expenses of the wedding which was financed by the bride`s family. During the reception, this purse was usually guarded by the bride`s grandmother or mother. In some weddings the bride hangs on to the satin bag and all the men who dance with the bride put money in the sack.
Italian weddings have always emphasize food. Strongly linked with family life, food is the focal point of the festivities. The elaborate wedding of the bride and groom brings together the friends and relatives of both families in a celebration of their new relationship.
In ancient Rome, a loaf of wheat bread was broken over the heads of the bride and groom to ensure a fertile and fulfilling life. Guests would eat the crumbs for good luck.
After dinner, everyone is served slices of wedding cake with cups of coffee, espresso or other beverages.
During the wedding receptions friends of the groom usually sneak away to play tricks on the new couple.
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